Welcome to Your Year of Impact and Day 29 of 31 days of living with impact.
When you make a big change, there’s often a specific moment when the decision is made and there’s no turning back. You could have been leading up to that moment for weeks, months or possibly years.
In the years that follow, you look back on that moment and you know, that was the point of no return, that was the moment. You remember every detail of the moment, like a snapshot that’s stored in your memory banks forever.
When I decided to change my life from living in a squat and being a full-time activist, there was a moment when I knew I could not make that change and stay in the same place or with the same people. Up until then, I’d avoided making the decision: I was living with friends who I’d been with for years and was part of a wider close-knit community. The idea of walking away from all of them was very scary and meant I’d have to find somewhere else to live and lose my entire social network overnight.
One day, I read some of Louise Hay’s book, Heal Your Life, to my housemates. It was the section at the back that gives a list of physical ailments and the underlying emotional and mental causes. We were sitting in the living room upstairs on the makeshift sofas we’d made from old mattresses (I know!) drinking tea. As I read one ailment after another, they laughed louder and louder and one, Jake, actually rolled off the sofa onto the floor in hysterics.
I looked at the room and, in that moment, I knew I would have to leave. I couldn’t stay with the same people and be different. I looked around the walls at the peeling posters for Gay Rights and Nelson Mandela and CND and Nicaragua as though to remember it for when I would no longer be here. I moved two weeks later and kept one friend from the group.
Can you relate to this? Have you had to leave someone behind in order to move on in your life? Are you in that dilemma now or could you be allowing someone to hold you back when you are no longer in step with them?
The people you are around have a profound effect on you. How’s that working for you?
Remember what Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
- WHO holds you back? (Be honest)
- Reduce your exposure or eliminate contact entirely.
- Get into a community of like-minded people who are going your way and are there for you, like the Year of Impact group. (Hooray!)