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I find Christmas a very lonely time
Answer by Fiona Harrold
Kathleen asks:
I always find Christmas a very lonely time. I am caring for my 86 year old mother and there is just the two of us.I don't have any brothers, sisters or partner. I get very lonely at Christmas and feel that I am missing out on all the fun.
My mother and I get on each others nerves around that time of year. I get very sad and nostalgic and usually I am very weepy at that time of year.
How can I make Christmas more bearable?
Fiona says:
There's nothing like Christmas to highlight what's missing from our lives, and it certainly feels like this is the case with you. I sympathise entirely with your situation, but there is plenty of life out there for you to get involved with.
Let's look at Christmas itself. What would you like to do - that's entirely possible? There's no need for you to spend the whole of Christmas day and Boxing day at home. Television is brilliant on these days, so leave your mum at home with tea, the telly and a box of Quality Street, and take yourself out somewhere.
It doesn't matter if you're volunteering to feed the homeless in a shelter or helping out at a local hospital. Do something that gets you out and mixing with some lively people.
You're clearly a people person and not a natural hermit, so please do look at how you can get out more, mix, take a job, whatever, in 2004.
Make Christmas the beginning of a New, more adventurous, outgoing and happier You.
You owe it to yourself Kathleen, Don't let yourself down!
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