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Jealous of boyfriend's achievements
Answer by Di Mc Lanachan
Jess asks:
I've always enjoyed new experiences and have flitted from interest to interest, running to pottery, belly dancing to kite-boarding for years now.It's never bothered me that I wasn't terribly talented at any of them until about 18 months ago.
My boyfriend is an extremely talented triathlete who trains six nights a week rain or shine. Compared to his efforts my interests seem a bit trivial and it's making me really jealous and depressed.
I've tried many a time to write plans, set goals and make resolutions but I never seem to achieve any of them which makes me feel more resentful.
Any advice?
Di says:
It sounds like your boyfriend is passionate about athletics and consequently, he puts in the time and effort that will enable him to become peak performer. Good for him.
However please recognise that because he has chosen to dedicate himself to one particular pursuit in order to be the best, doesn't mean that you are in any way a lesser person for not doing the same.
An interest is just that - something you choose to do because you are interested in it and it gives you a sense of enjoyment. Having a variety of interests gives you a greater number of sources of enjoyment and that's even better!
I have to say that I think your boyfriend is very lucky that he goes out training six nights a week and has a girlfriend who is prepared to accept that and still be there for him. That says a lot of very nice things about you and I hope he appreciates that.
And if the two of you ever found yourselves taking part in a belly dancing competition one day, who do you think would be the "extremely talented" one? I rest my case!
Enjoy your interests, the more, the better.
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