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A Fully Lived Life – One Brilliant Example!
Prior to lifecoaching sessions with Rita, my life had reached an all time low. My partner and I had seperated, my daughter had grown up and left home, and I had decided to give up my very long term hobby, horses.
I was in a property in a county I disliked, and felt I didn't belong. My social life was zero and I had no contact with other single people. I knew I need to find a new direction, a new career, a new hobby but I didn't have a clue where to start.
No Direction
There was nothing I was particularly interested in, just a few vague ideas of what I could do if nothing better turned up. At the age of 48 it appeared I had no further direction, or use, or passion to do anything. I certainly felt too old to train for a new direction.
Rita made me look at everything in a completely different way - the self fulfilling prophecy being one of the first things we tackled. My property was up for sale and until it sold I would be unable to embark on a new business.
Because I personally disliked the house and the memories it held I always predicted it would take a year to sell - naturally it did then take a year! Rita told me to put some love into the house, and so I did in small ways.
I made some small alterations to make it more homely and bought flowers, and when I had potential purchasers she told me to believe that they would actually buy and no matter what happened to keep these positive thoughts - it worked!
Next Step
The next step was looking at the things I thought I might do (I had no enthusiasm for these things but couldn't think of anything better).
By thoroughly investigating all possibilites I was able to once and for all dismiss them. I did a lot of homework and even attended courses, ie I did my licensee exam, but realised I didn't feel passionate enough to want to commit.
I cannot remember clearly at what point the seed for the idea for my dream life came about but at Easter this year I started looking at boats. I had a small involvement with them in the past - very much in a passenger sense.
The more I looked the more I got interested and excited. There was such a lot to learn and the people seemed so helpful and friendly. Rita encouraged me to look at the possibilities and not just discard them as out of reach or too bizzare. I had found my dream and my passion!
Fulfilling My Needs
After selling my house I have bought myself a beautiful 42 foot motor cruiser. It has given me a base back down South where I feel I belong and I now spend 3 weeks there and 1 week back with my daughter and father in the North.
My boat provides me with an interesting home which does not feel like a downward step from the large rambling equestrian properites I was used to - it is so different there can be no comparison.
I have an interest and a hobby with so much to learn which is fullfilling my need to keep my brain exercised. I have freedom to travel, I now find myself in an environment where I feel I belong, there are othere single people, conversation flows easily as we have much in common.
I have challenged myself both physically and mentally doing sailing courses and achieving certificates in competency.
Excitement & Challenges
By being back in an environment that suits me and amongst people that stimulate my mind I have now actually embarked on 2 new business ventures both with partners and I am finding both exciting and challenging.
My life has changed so much in one year - from being totally all at sea, I am now literally all at sea - but in the best possible sense! I thank Rita for guiding me so skilfully through the muddle of my thoughts and ideas and helping me to shed the limitations I had put upon myself and cut free from the baggage of the past.
