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1. Don't Experiment

This may sound strange but do not be tempted to buy something new. This is a common mistake. If you wear something new, you may not be comfortable and you run the risk of the clothes wearing you instead of you wearing the clothes.

You need to feel relaxed and confident on a first date so wear something that makes you feel fabulous.

2. Be Appropriate

You should establish whether it is formal or informal, outdoors or indoors or standing or sitting.

For instance girls, if you know your date is taking you to a secluded restaurant at the end of a long cobbled stone street, don't wear your killer heel Manolos or Jimmy Choo's. You will be teetering all the way and that is hardly sophisticated! Oh and boys, if you know that she has suggested a bar in Hoxton, do not arrive straight from work in a grey flannel pinstripe. You will give the impression that you lack imagination, even if you have removed your tie.

3. Pay Attention to Detail

We cannot stress this point enough, poor grooming gives a bad impression, but more importantly, causes a distraction. So girls, hairy armpits, scuffed heels and chipped nail varnish we just do not do. As for the boys, dirty fingernails, greasy hair and nasal hair. …Need we say more?

Remember, "The Devil is in the detail".      

4. Give Some Clues

Let them know if you're interested.  We worked with a client recently who seemed to have all the right ingredients, confidence, tall, dark, handsome and a sense of humour but the way he carried himself; his body language didn't back this up. He wasn't giving off any of the right signals. 

So make sure your body speaks what you want it to say and don't assume your date knows you're interested!  Mirroring their body language and energy is just one way of letting them know you're keen!

5. Act The Part

Even if your confidence is at an all-time low and you're not feeling at your utmost wonderful "act as if". Actors have to "fake it" all the time when preparing for a role and so can you. So if you play the role of a highly attractive confident person you'll soon start to believe it and so will your date. 

When I'm on my way to an audition (more terrifying than any date!!)  I walk to my audition as if I am the character or as if I am one of the many sophisticated actresses I admire.  Trust me it does wonders to lift your confidence and it really does take the focus of any remaining jitters!