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5 Practical Tips for Relationship Recovery
1. Remove all physical reminders of your Ex
Having constant reminders around of personal belongings of your ex, photos, letters etc is not going to help your recovery process. To start with, box up all reminders of your ex and place them out of sight.
By boxing things up, you can come back to them when you feel ready to face it. Avoid any drastic action at this point that you could end up regretting later. When your wounds have healed or you’re feeling calmer you may still decide that you want to get rid of these things for good, but you’ll be in a much better place for making that decision.
2. Remove all virtual reminders of your Ex
It’s not only physical reminders that serve to jolt our memories; it’s virtual ones too! Remove the temptation of reading and re-reading messages from your ex. Go through your emails and delete or store in a file or on a CD any loving messages relating to your Ex. If you have instant messaging, remove your Ex from your buddy list.
Delete your Ex’s text messages from your phone – or if you really can’t face deleting these, store them somewhere you won’t need to see them on a regular basis.
3. Change your bedding!
This might sound strange but it can help some people to move on, especially if the bedding you’ve been sleeping in has a long history and memories attached. I’ve even known people to go out and buy new beds because of this association!
If you can afford new bedding or even a new mattress, it’s like giving yourself a fresh start. However there are less costly solutions available if you are at all bothered by the energetic situation of sleeping in the same bed or sheets that you shared with your Ex.
Clearing any clutter and giving your bedroom a thorough spring clean is a great way to dispel any negative energy. You can also use space-clearing sprays, incense or smudge sticks.
4. Buy yourself a relationship recovery journal
Expressing your thoughts on paper is an incredibly powerful way of aiding the healing process. It’s especially good for people who are not comfortable with showing their feelings or who are not able for whatever reason to talk to someone. Using a journal or notebook is a great way to vent your anger hurt and pain and may well just stop you saying things to your Ex that you could later regret.
It’s can also be beneficial in showing you how far you’ve come along the relationship recovery route.
5. Treat yourself
This is an essential step on the road to recovery for both men and women. Treating yourself reminds you that you are special, even if you are telling yourself otherwise.
Actions speak louder than words so take action and treat yourself: have a massage; buy yourself some flowers, your favourite foods or whatever takes your fancy.
A final word from Cherry…
Remember, recovery doesn’t have to take forever – your progress is entirely in your hands – so put some effort into recovery and invest in yourself, because you’re worth it.
