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May 10

Get Your Story Straight!

Posted by Fiona Harrold | 2 Comments

Get a handle on your past or the past could scupper you or at least slow you down. And it’s not the past that will do the damage – it’s your version of it. I’ll be covering this in huge depth on the new Bounce Back! teleseminar. In the meantime, begin by beginning to get your story straight.

Does your version of the story-of-you make you victimised or victorious? What role are you/do you see yourself playing? Ultimately, you need a clean bill of self-worth and if your past is dogging you, you’re not going to have that.

The past can hamper your feeling of wholesome deservedness. I’ve coached fifty-year olds who’ve been blighted by a feeling of unworthiness from something that happened when they were fifteen. Fifteen! Believe me, they did nothing terrible. They simply did things that their family didn’t approve of and they became burdened with guilt for the rest of their lives.

The past can also leave you feeling not good enough in terms of your value and what you have to offer the world with your talents and services. This will obviously stymie your progress in the workplace, in the aspirations and ambitions you have for yourself and generally in your willingness to push yourself forward in life.

Getting Straight

1. Revisit a scene you feel uneasy about from your older, wiser self. Put what happened into perspective with compassion for your younger self. Use hindsight to heal.

2. Affirm: I now give myself permission to let this go and move on.

Remember, all change begins with a decision, an awareness and a willingness to let go. This moving on can relate to your childhood (and everyone needs to get over their childhood!); it can relate to your role as a parent, as a daughter or son. It can relate to a divorce or anything that was a major event in your life.

What do you think? Trapped by the past? Are you a product of your environment or your response to your environment? You decide!

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  • On 8 June 2010 at 3:38 pm Sarah Fraser said:

    Hi Fiona,
    Oh how true! Coaching is predominantly forward-focused and I love that aspect of it, but occassionally you need to go and fix a few things from your past in order to clear the way to move on. I’m also a coach and I recently got my Master Practitioner in NLP and am finding it offers some really great techniques to reframing negative events from your past – it’s pretty powerful stuff! Curious to hear if other readers have experience of using NLP (or other methods) to free themsleves or their clients from past blockages. Sarah.

  • On 14 July 2010 at 11:23 pm Vicky said:

    Having experienced this first hand I can say that being passive and blindly (and unconciously) accepting other people’s opinions of who you are can be the biggest hurdle to overcome. I think we have become alittle addicted to relying on someone or something else to tell us who we are and what we are worth.The power over our lives is found within ourselves. What we think of ourselves is what is reflected back to us in our lives.Your life is yours to do with as you please. If you are passive with it everyone else gets to direct it for you.It’s abit like being a passenger in a car – you don’t get to control where you go or the quality of the journey!! Take the drivers seat…..put your hands on the steering wheel….put it into gear….

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