Comments on: Self-reliance vs Dependence

By: Fiona

Fiona — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 09:29:14 +0000

Vicky,
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By: Vicky

Vicky — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 22:36:35 +0000

And I thought you wouldn’t see this comment because it was an old post!! Yes, it really is that simple, but not to those lost in the media bombardment of messages everyday. I was thinking about it abit more yesterday …. how did we get to be such sheep, following more than leading. Fear of change, choas, .. the usual thoughts occurred… then I realised something else that I think is quite significant. I have 2 teenage daughters who are struggling at the moment to ‘fit in’. No matter how much I tell them to consult themselves first, they still hesitate to do what they want. Then the penny dropped. Look at this …. as a child we follow our parents direction and instruction, and once we go to school…again we follow other people’s instruction… and it becomes a habit …one we are uncomfortable about breaking!!! No wonder teens struggle,it is a literal change they have to make, from dependent following, to independent leading.( Your self-reliance vs Dependence Fiona)If they can’t accomplish this here, it gets carried through to adulthood. Even though I have taught my girls to think independently all their lives, they still hesitate to do what they want. A helpful insight,for me, so I hope sharing it helps someone else….

By: Fiona

Fiona — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 08:25:32 +0000

It’s that simple, Vicky! It’s that simple.

By: Vicky

Vicky — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 22:28:17 +0000

Wow you guys – you are missing the point Fiona is making. We are all individually responsible for our own wellbeing. How is it we got addicted to being looked after by others? It is not up to ‘society’ or ‘governments’ or ‘a husband’ or ‘a wife’ to look after our needs. Talk about pass the buck! The only person that can make you happy, is you. Only you know what that magical mix is – or do you? I see so many people completely lost, not knowing who they are, what they want, because ‘society’ and consumerism has bombarded them with messages and advertising that says do this, get that, follow me ( I know best what’s right for you – this will make you happy! ). I switched off my TV and stopped reading media publications 18 months ago.Best thing I ever did. Are you aware of how much the media keeps us dis-satisfied with our lives?? Distracted from the wonderful life pulsing all around us?Please,take time to question what you are told, what you listen to. Too often we follow others, and not lead our own lives.

By: Fiona

Fiona — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 13:57:01 +0000

Very happy to help, Jacquie – send George and Dave to me anytime!

And, don’t forget our weekly Coaching Hour, Thursday at 8, motivates people from all over the UK – and beyond – absolutely free.

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We all have our part to play in uplifting GB.

All the best,

Fiona

By: Jacquie Martin

Jacquie Martin — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 13:48:58 +0000

Hi Fiona

You did say the woman did not need to change a thing with

By: Fiona

Fiona — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 12:17:45 +0000

Hi Jacquie,
the feature on the mother of seven (with another on the way) who had never worked and never intended to work was from ‘Closer’ magazine and then reported across most of the other daily papers.

This isn’t about politics. It’s about our culture and a culture that engenders helplessness and a lack of personal responsibility.

I have never said we should cut people’s benefits. I simply think our current system encourages apathy and resignation and a healthy debate on the subject may not be a bad thing – especially as I contribute to it through my taxes.

Many thanks for your comments.

ps. If I had serious political ambitions, I wouldn’t be in the Green Party – but would have stuck with the Labour Party!

By: Jacquie Martin

Jacquie Martin — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 09:17:56 +0000

Hi Fiona

I had an email from you this morning and I looked at the blog from a link.

I’m sorry to say, that whilst I have always found you very supportive and inspirational, this post has disappointed me.

You have come across as cold, uncaring, intolerant and really very niaive.

I’m guessing from the article you’ve quoted, you’ve been reading the Daily Mail. Your choice, but please don’t believe all you read. They are renowned for getting their facts wrong and telling complete lies. I would want to see evidence of these benefits before I am convinced. Papers deal in spin and they all have distinct political biases – we shouldn’t forget this.

I also feel the fact that no-one posted a response does not mean everyone agrees. There could be many who disagree but don’t want to argue the point. Along with a whole load of people who just don’t read the blog. Plus others who don’t feel this should turn into a political soap-box. And if this is what I’m going to see, I’m not sure I will read in the future.

Your way is not the right way for everyone. Some people need a bit of space, nurture, understanding to make the best of themselves.

I realise you have frustrated political ambitions. But I feel you should not let this overlap with your professional practice. Keep the politics out. The politicians do this as their job and to be frank, they’re talking the country into such gloom.

And if you believe that just cutting off benefits will result in a complete reawakening for people, you need to read a few history books. I predict a period of grave civil unrest and increased crime which will affect us all.

By: Fiona

Fiona — Mon, 17 May 2010 20:41:04 +0000

She has absolutely no need/incentive to change a single thing, with benefits of

By: Philip

Philip — Mon, 17 May 2010 20:07:59 +0000

Yes,I am sure that lady in the story could easily run a nursery,she must love kids ! Her husband could do the admin-sorted.Go and see them !