Comments on: Be Happy – Right Now!

By: January

January — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 05:12:06 +0000

I was shocked with your point, Wear lipstick,Haha…
Lipstick made a girl looks nice and confident, then be Happy!

By: Fiona

Fiona — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 18:18:15 +0000

Thanks, Lesley!

I agree on the lipstick – wouldn’t be without it!

All the best, Fiona

By: Lesley Everett

Lesley Everett — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 14:46:50 +0000

Fiona, thanks for including my comments in this great article. I would add that lipstick makes you feel good too, and a new season is a great excuse to find a new colour!

By: Julie

Julie — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 22:13:30 +0000

Just to add a different viewpoint, I recently gave up on my regular monthly magazine, because every issue was full of ‘reinvent your life’ ‘make your life better’ etc. I’ve read and followed coaching techniques, and when I’ve needed them, they have been a fantastic help. However the need to change myself every month, was just too overwhelming and tiring.I was happy to be me for a little while. However i don’t intend standing still, ‘If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got’. But sometimes thats ok.

By: Fiona

Fiona — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 10:19:29 +0000

Thanks so much, Belinda.

I’m delighted to have been of some help and encouragement to you and you are living proof that one can go to Cambridge and still be thoroughly in touch with the rest of us!

I’m the first person to criticise the ‘X Factor’ promise of overnight success, pointing out that those who succeed on The X Factor or other are the likes of Leona Lewis, who had been pursuing her dream – and going to stage school since she was a tot and never misses a chance to say she’d have made it and fulfilled her dream with or without Simon Cowell/The X Factor.

Dream and Scheme – that’s my motto!

xx F

By: Belinda

Belinda — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 23:10:40 +0000

I would like to thank you Fiona very sincerely for your books. I worked very seriously with You Can be Your Own Life Coach for many months doing all the exercises and assignments diligently. I still use all the affirmations, and other deep insights I got from it today 5 years on;my contract is still relevant and powerful. Not a day goes past without using something I learned from your book. I believe people are already discontent and just settle for mediocrity because they don’t see any other way. Coaching helps people to achieve their dreams whereas cynics tell us not to dream because there’s no hope of achieving them. How depressing.
For me coaching is not about having huge unfulfillable aspirations about what I’m going to have or do but more about who I’m being. So if I choose to be happy then I’m happy whatever I have or do. There will always be people who take the negative viewpoint and really they don’t understand what coaching is about.
So thank you again for all the hugely valuable work you and other coaches do Fiona.I’m sure you won’t let the cynics undermine you – even if they have been to Cambridge!
Oh and by the way – I went to Cambridge too.
love
Belinda

By: Fiona

Fiona — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 14:26:33 +0000

Love your comment, Karen.

I totally agree – is it wrong for us – who haven’t gone to Eton and/or Cambridge to want to broaden our horizons and let nothing and no-one limit our fulfilment and expression in the world – and help others do the same?

Yes, it may feel overwhelming, sometimes, to have aspirations and ambitions, but striving for them is a darned sight better than not even trying.

xx F

By: Karen Foy

Karen Foy — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 13:38:25 +0000

If coaches were making it their mission to convince people that material success would solve all of their angst; or work with them to build a business plan based on being the next big celebrity I could not agree more that we are part of the problem. But no coach worth their salt would dream of selling such a false dream. Only last week we saw the reality of having all the money you could wish for when a Lotto millionaire died after hitting all sorts of problems following his win. As Fiona says here taking responsibility for our own life and creating the future we want instead of sitting in victim-hood is the only way forward.

I do find it slightly worrying that anyone would presume that any coach could decide what is possible for another person. In my coaching practice I never fail to be amazed and humbled by what people make possible in lives a lot less privileged than some commentators. My work in disadvantaged communities has taught me never to believe I could guess what someone could become given a little support and belief.

Two memories come to mind, one a young man coming into a group coaching session who was homeless after a spell in prison, had been brought up in a violent environment with no encouragement, his dream? To study philosophy, with support and encouragement that is what he is doing, and all without access to a private education; just a passion to change his life and an acceptance that his future was in his hands.

The other memory was way back in the seventies when I overheard two well-dressed women talking at a bus stop that overlooked a car park outside of a coal mine. They were commenting at how appalling it was that miners had cars. These comments today reminded me of this mentality that

By: Mike Blissett

Mike Blissett — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 13:19:48 +0000

As a human being, coach on Fiona’s team and trainer I ‘respect the other person’s model of the world’.

Whilst I may not always understand or agree, to respect their point of view and integrity is fundamental.

Unfortunately, not everyone follows the same principle – and whilst I know people such as the writer mentioned is of that school and can make money out of moaning and criticizing others, I still respect his opinion. I don

By: Ross M. Gal

Ross M. Gal — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 10:34:39 +0000

My Dearest Fiona,

As you have asked me “What do you think?”, I feel honoured to have me considered giving an opinion to a GREAT British Coach, such as you.

This is what I humbly think about the topic of happiness. Also, as I have already commented earlier, this is what I personally think about it, Fiona.

Nothing or no one can possibly make me happy or unhappy. Nothing or no one has the power to do so. Neither of the 5 points above will ever lead me to a happy life. How come? Simply because I am ALREADY happy right here and right now.

I need NOTHING or NO ONE to be happy. I don’t even need to be a successful Coach to be happy. Needless to say, I sometimes feel blue, not because I don’t have this or that thing or person , but because I lose track of what is REAL. What IS real? What IS reality?

Happiness is to be IN CONTACT with REALITY. What IS reality, then? The REALITY is that I AM happy WITH or WITHOUT physical things and physical people. Don’t you ever believe that WITHOUT such and such a thing or person, I refuse to be happy. Once you see the falsehood of this belief, you’ll be BLISSFULLY HAPPY. Drop this belief!

“Be Happy” then and have a good day.

And by the way, I just LOVE virtually all the books you’ve published. Great stuffs! And a good job too. Any one of your books could be, and IS an instrument for helping people (me included)to find their TRUE IDENTITY, that of an innately HAPPY BEING!

Lovingly detached,

Ross, NLP Spiritual Life Coach