How to be (even) more attractive

Be more attractive

Who doesn’t want to be more attractive?

I use the term literally here, as in the dictionary definition:  “Pleasing or appealing to the senses, arousing interest, a pulling force.”

The remarkable truth is that ANYONE can be attractive, can boost their powers of attraction, can cultivate the ability to arouse interest and draw others towards them. It really does have very little to do with the looks God dished out to us.

Attractiveness is a state of mind!

Gordon Ramsay, Russell Brand, Sarah Jessica Parker, Bette Midler. Even in the perfection-obsessed world of celebrity, you’ll find a growing number of rogue sex symbols who don’t fit easily into our perception of the conventionally attractive on the surface, but who exude attraction and sex appeal from every pore.

Passion

What they all possess in abundance is self-belief, a contagious passion for life and a healthy sense of individuality. In the words of the inimitable Ms Midler:

“Treasure forever what makes you unique, cos you’re really a yawn if it goes!”

In essence, that is the first step to becoming more attractive. Spend some time identifying what makes you special. What is it about you, at your best that sets you apart from the rest?

Make a list of at least 10 of your special attributes. Physical, personality, achievements… it’s up to you.

Now set about honouring these special qualities on a daily basis. Get in touch with your best self, and amazing things can happen.

Preconceptions

The next step towards greater attractiveness is about letting go of preconceptions. After years of thinking that attractiveness is just for the chosen few, often people need to give themselves permission to feel and be attractive.

Until we are able to accept ourselves as attractive beings, how on earth can we expect others to receive us in this way? This process could start with a simple affirmation such as  “I am willing to see myself as attractive.” Repeat this as often as possible. A change will come.

Next, we need to focus on image and first impressions. Attractive people take care of themselves. They look after their bodies and enjoy looking their best.

This is not to be confused with that particularly unattractive trait of vanity, and a preoccupation with image, fashion and appearance. Truly attractive people are simply comfortable and confident with the way they look.

They know they’ve made an effort to look good, and this frees them up to focus on more important things - like living their best life.

Five Top Tips To Be More Attractive

1. Establish what you want to attract

Let’s get specific. Create a description of your ideal friend/partner/business partner. Have fun. Jot down everything that comes to mind.

Try not to censor your ideas as “unrealistic” or “out of your league.” Establish what you want – then go for it.

2. Be playful

Stop trying so hard. Let go, and rediscover with your playful side. Smile, laugh; stay open to amusing and interesting possibilities.

3. Loosen up your body

Spend some time focusing on your body. Get comfortable in your own skin. To help you connect, why not try a dance class, yoga or a massage course? Keep your body language relaxed and open.

4. Live sensuously

Indulge and develop your senses. Enjoy beauty around you. Sharpen your appreciation for everyday scents and tastes. Listen with heightened awareness. Get in touch with how your body feels.

5. Believe, and it will happen

Choose how you want to feel. Affirm this to yourself, and then radiate your feeling to the world. It really is that simple. Go on and try it today!