The Great Intimacy Secret

Did you know that there is one simple secret which, once discovered, holds the key to making any relationship work?

What if you knew exactly what that secret was? Would you keep it to yourself or share it with the world?

Well, I’ve never been that great at keeping a secret so I am compelled to tell you what it is. At last you’ll have the knowledge that will make all your relationships work and stand the test of time.

Imagine being able to teach your children how to find and keep love so that they will never experience the pain of divorce and separation.

The Secret Revealed

Still interested? Ok, here goes.

The Greatest Intimacy Secret of all is MAKE ME MATTER.

Is it really that simple?Absolutely, that’s all there is to it.

Make me matter, make me feel special; make me feel cared for and loved and respected and appreciated.

Do whatever it takes to MAKE ME MATTER and I’ll love you for life.

The truth is that people have forgotten to make their loved ones matter. They are caught up with their work, the kids, the school run, the gym, the pub. Romance takes time and effort. Romance is not just for the honeymoon period, romance is for life.

Looking for Love?

If you are out there looking for your kindred spirit right now, observe what happens when you make your new date matter. Watch them bloom in front you as you listen to what they say as if it were the most important words anyone could speak.

Be amazed at how remembering their doctor’s appointment, the interview or the meeting with their boss makes them want to take you out anywhere you want to go.

Relighting your Fire

If you are already in a relationship, take a step back. Decide that you will make your partner matter for three days in a row and just watch what you get in return.

I can promise you that when your loved one makes you feel special and important and you feel like you matter to them, your relationship will just flourish.

Here are my five top tips for making each other feel special and keeping the romance, and passion, in your relationship alive.

1. Make time for fun

Bringing light-hearted activities into our lives lifts our spirits and makes necessary deposits into our “fun banks,” which keep us buoyant when times are challenging. Remembering the fun you have with your partner, reminds you that life goes on too long to take seriously all the time.

2. Keep talking

It’s not just about being in the same room, it’s about using time together to talk. Turn off the TV and turn on the music, sit down and simply talk to each other. Even if it’s impossible to change the circumstances of your daily lives, it helps to know that you are always there to listen and support each other.

3. Appointment with love

Plan time to be together. Some couples may even need to “pencil in” times, whilst others are able to be more spontaneous. Whichever you choose you must still put aside the time to do something that is enjoyable for both of you.

4. Put your shoes on!

Get out at the weekend and go for a walk, just the two of you. Promenading – as they used to call a leisurely stroll – gives you time to catch up with past week and talk about your dreams and plans.

5. Prioritise passion

Look at your commitments and decide what is truly important to you. No-one ever got to the end of their lives wishing they’d spent more time at the office. Love and affection is the best investment of time you will ever make.