Take a look in the mirror because…

It’s YOU!

…yes, it’s time to be your own strongest supporter.

Think positive

Maybe you are thinking, ‘that’s ridiculous, of course I support my goal, I was hoping for someone else to support me‘.

But the truth is that many people don’t support themselves consistently, and until they do outside support is of no use.

We allow ourselves to get distracted and down-hearted with negative self-talk. This internal chatter impacts your subconscious thoughts and acts as a poor excuse not to succeed. Make a decision to call a halt to negative thoughts, because anything which you say or think which doesn’t support you to get your Goal will interfere with your ability to intuitively make the right choices and decisions.

Your subconscious mind is like a one way Dictaphone. It doesn’t answer back, but accepts and records everything you say or think. And it always agrees with you.

If you get up in the morning and say to yourself, ‘this morning I am going to get everything done and have time to enjoy myself’, your subconscious mind will register, ‘yes, you’ll have time to do everything and enjoy yourself!’ If you say, ‘I’ve got so much to do today, I haven’t got time to enjoy myself’, that’s the message it will register.

The power within you

It’s time to recruit your subconscious mind to support you unconditionally to achieve your Goal. Begin by introducing positive auto-suggestions into your daily life.

Auto-suggestions are thoughts and sayings you make to yourself about yourself. If your goal is to deliver a brilliant sales presentation, suggest to yourself that you are a brilliant presenter. Don’t refer to past achievements, for although our subconscious mind has stored up every action, reaction and inspiration you have had throughout your life, It tends to act in the present tense, so talk to it in the present term.

If you think or say, ‘I want to meet a partner who loves me’, your subconscious will register, ‘yes, you want to meet someone who loves you’. But if you change the wording to ‘I am loved by my partner’, your mind will say, ‘yes, you are loved by your partner’.

This simple but important change in use of words, if reaffirmed regularly, will actually change your thoughts and actions and create the opportunities to make it a true statement.

Build a support network

When you are fully on board as your number 1 supporter, you are ready to gain support from others.

Have you ever gone to other people for their ideas on something, or for moral support or encouragement? Some people naturally make you feel energised by their enthusiasm and certainty that everything will be fine. You may have also experienced the feeling of being drained by someone who is not aware of your needs or who always sees the glass as half empty. Common sense dictates that when you ask for support you should spend more time with those who inspire you and avoid those who don’t!

Surround yourself with people who share your dream. If you are setting up your own business, seek out local networks which advise and support start-ups. If the support you want isn’t around you, create it. Ask for it. Get a coach, get a mentor, find a jogging partner.

At the same time, remember that while other people can help guide you or come up with a new angle on a challenge, you don’t need approval from others to believe in yourself. That must come from you. Focus on believing on the value of your Goal, not only to yourself but also to everyone that it will concern.

If your goal is for your good and the good of others, you will find that support comes naturally from within you and around you.

Actions of the Week

1. Create a fabulous affirmation that inspires you to totally support yourself. Write it down on the back of your ‘Goal Card’ which you made in Week 1.

2. Write an ‘I support myself’ letter, explaining how you totally believe in your Goal and how you totally support yourself in gaining and generating constant support for as long as it takes. Post the letter to yourself, because reading it will inspire you throughout your goal getting journey!

3. Remember all those cuttings and inspirational words you’ve been collecting over the past three weeks, well now comes the fun bit! You are going to use all those wonderful pictures and words to create a special Goal collage. Put on some music, and stick them onto paper or card, adding glitter, shining stars, photographs of yourself and those who support you.

4. Start a goal setting group. Get in touch with four or five people who inspire you and have fabulous ambitions of their own. Together you can support each other in getting your goals. This can be through group meetings, or even on the phone but make it fun and inspiring!

5. This week eliminate the use of the words, ‘I’ll try’ and replace them with ‘I will find a way’, or ‘I will give my best effort’.

Do all your actions and enjoy putting together your Goal collage. Look at it every day and feel inspired, and next week you will learn how to make it happen!