First Impressions

It’s estimated that we are judged and judge others within the first 10 seconds of meeting.

Even before we have had the chance to say the right thing, the impression we give of ourselves through our appearance and overall demeanour is key to how we are perceived from that moment onwards. That may be terrifying, but it’s hugely important to appreciate and use to your advantage.

Setting aside appearance and grooming there are two Golden Rules of Getting On with People that I want to give you. I guarantee these will enhance the impression that you make on others and your enjoyment of meeting new people. Here they are.

The two Golden Rules of Getting On

Expect to be liked.
Watch your anticipation when entering a room or being introduced to someone. Ensure you anticipate that they really are delighted to meet you and will like you. Rule out any unfavourable anticipation otherwise your anxiety and fear will make you look uptight, unnerve them and bring about that very response.
Like them.
Smile. Let them know that you really are delighted to meet them. Everyone wants to feel liked. Showing them that you like them relaxes them and can only endear them to you. This rule applies to everyone, regardless of status or position. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that a very assured or public person would not welcome your smile and appreciation as much as anyone else. So this week, whether you’re meeting the Queen of England or Ozzy Osborne – show them you like them!

Why not have a think about the impression that you want to create, how you want to be seen. What might get in the way of you coming across well, feeling comfortable at social events and meeting new people?

Experiment with implementing my Golden Rules and do let us know how you get on.